A problem solved is a problem trebled

I'm still sure I don't want anything to happen with yoga girl so that's nice to have a final decision, I can just draw a line under that and get on with life. I was trying to just be normal with her, as friends, but it doesn't seem as though that's going to be possible. My housemate keeps saying ahh you just have to be normal with her and a tiny bit flirty in a friend way or something to show that everything is ok.
I hadn't really given that much thought but when I was in Italy I spoke to her and made a vague plan to go round and fix her wardrobe (which I said I'd do ages ago but haven't got round to) and watch some film that looks crap that she reckons is brilliant.
Now, I don't know about you, but I make about a hundred vague plans with friends every week, the vast majority of which never happen or certainly don't always within the next few days. Maybe it's because I'm so busy and always travelling around, but most of my friends are the same. We think of something we'd like to do, say we should do it, then never get round to it.
Well, about five days after I got back from Italy I was away again - still in the country this time, but away from home. And that lot went out for the Sunday night and it turned out she was in a grump because I'd made a plan for just the two of us to do something and then never followed up on it. I don't think it helped that I'd had a bit to drink when I made the plan, but I was absolutely not battered. I remember the conversation fully, I never forget anything no matter how drunk I get and I'd litereally only had a couple of beers. At no point was it a coupley thing or a come on, but apparently I've been leading her on again.
So now I just can't be bothered putting too much effort into being mates with her for a while because it seems like every time I do she's going to get the wrong idea and I'm going to end up being the bad guy. I don't know what else to do, short of saying 'look, I don't like you that way so nothing is going to be a come on no matter how much it looks like it might be to you, I'm just being friends.' But that seems quite harsh and I don't think I would ever actually say that to anyone. I have enough guilt just simply for not liking someone back, without having to hurt her feelings!!

So, yoga girl aside, there are now two more girls on the scene. Not really sure how that happened but it has. The first one I haven't actually met yet. She started emailing me after we were both involved in a group email with some people we both know. She must have roughly known who I was through someone but I didn't know her. She's quite keen and she seems nice enough and good fun. Can't really tell much from emails so I agreed to meet up next week for a drink. It was a bit forward when she said 'So, are you going to ask me out or am I going to have to keep dropping subtle hints' I, of course, was oblivious to any hints, but I do think that people just being straight forward should be encouraged. Far better than playing games for ever and not knowing.
This might sound bad, but tough, this blog is for writing how I really feel about things. I can say the things I'm only supposed to say to my friends. I'm actually finding it a bit off-putting that she's texting me all the time. How stupid is that? When you like someone you want to text them all the time. But I just hardly know this girl and think it's a bit soon for her to get excited. She can't possibly like me that much because she doesn't know me!!
To be fair a lot of the texts were just arranging where to meet up, but yesterday was the first day she didn't text me all week and when she does she keeps saying things like 'sorry to text you so much, don't think i'm a stalker, but......' Not sure whether that's a good thing or a bad thing that she's aware of it. Anyway, that's all besides the point really, I'll meet her on Tuesday and see what's she like and how we get on, I just thought it was weird that I would have negative feelings because someone is contacting me a lot. That probably tells me a lot more about how happy I am being single at the moment and how much I'm just enjoying living my own life without having anyone else to answer to or even think about.
But that's not an easy thing to explain to someone, especially if I do like her and want to see her again, but just not all the time!

Oh yeah, and the other girl. I know this girl through mutual friends but I don't know her well at all. I don't even know the friend that well, more of an aquaintance really. Anyway she's been emailing back and forth too while I was away last weekend.... It probably says a lot about me that 99% of my contact with people is by phone or email. I'm just away so much that I hardly ever seen my housemates, people I work with, or friends, never mind people I hardly know!!

Anyway, I'm getting on really well with this chick and I think we have a lot more in common. I'm sure it sounds awfully shallow but I also know this girl is quite pretty, whereas the other one I've only seen one pic of and it's hard to tell. But then, shallow as it sounds, you've got to be attracted to someone haven't you!

So yeah, now I have to try to avoid leading yoga girl on again, meet this new chick and see what she's like, and probably arrange to go out with the second new chick if I keep liking her more.